Friday, 4 April 2014

The age of questions

I'm a 23 year old woman, who has recently completed her master's degree. I'm working quite happily with my family business that has taken me places in the past three years.

Most of my friends are either hitched,  engaged or hitched with kids. So its not surprising that I get asked a lot of questions about the next most apparently obvious thing in my life. Just a small background I thought I should perhaps give you before I shall reveal the questions that annoy me and make my blood boil.

The ten questions that I absolutely hate hearing are:



1. So, when are you getting married? (Uhm what?)

2. Oh your best friends are all married, perhaps you're next? ( It's their choice, not mine!)

3. Are you dating? Do you want to marry him? ( None of your business!)

4. You're 23 na? No plans of getting married soon? (So????)

5. You know Suresh's uncle's cousin's neighbour's daughter is getting married. (Get the underlying question there? )

6. Asked by those Aunties you rarely meet. "Oh beta, padhai khatam ab shaadi?"
(Studies over, now marriage? Is that all to life really? )

7. Why don't you do MBA if you're not planning on getting married? ( Yeah right! Please explain the connectivity of the two. Seriously I love the way things are right now.)

8. At a cousin's wedding, " You know the groom's brother is quite handsome. Do you want me to set you up? "( No thank you please! I'm here to attend a marriage, not start my own story)

9. WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED NOW? (Ahem, what part do you not get?)

10. Mom: "Beta, what do you want to eat? " ( Okay I secretly love this one. I love the way mum is so blissfully different, not once has she ever questioned me about marriage. Thank God! But the one question she never fails to ask me is this one. *sigh* I love you mum, I really do. I can eat anything and everything that you will make for me. Even if it's pizza or boiled egg. You don't need to ask me at all! )

Ps: I have nothing against marriage, it shall happen when it happens. But I do hate it when everyone is hell bent on asking me the same question over and over again. I'm sick and tired of this question, the next person who asks me this shall have a curse from me, to be forced to suffer back to back Himesh Reshammiya songs running in their ears. I think you get the idea.

So, what questions annoy you?

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This post is written for Indispire, ten questions that you hate.

73 comments:

  1. This is true that it will happen when it happens. Everyone has to undergo these kind of questions and sometimes they are just teasing you by asking you same over and over.

    Don't worry once you get through this you will enjoy these type questions. Think you are on other side Just be with the other side

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    1. Lol I dont know if I shall ever enjoy these questions

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  2. I can relate.I am being asked the same questions right now.:)

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    1. Lol awww lets do some bashing together :D

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  3. Ha ha :D.. People are ever curious to know :). Good post :Thumbsup

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  4. lol :D loved this post :D people are often busy setting up matters for others... especially aunties in wedding!! The chalte firte shaadi.com :D

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    1. Lol I know na. They all should get paid by these matrimonial sites. Good business for them

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  5. These questions surely get on to nerves at times.

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    1. Lol even thinking about em gives me creeps

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  6. Superb. U r 6 yrs younger...think wat happens 2 me.....:P

    Ppl really hav no business...jobless idiots.....

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    1. Lmao I hear you Amrita. It gets worse with age. Literally. :D

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  8. being a boy ... there are some mnute changes in the questions asked ..bot moreover the same :P :P ...nicely put up

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    1. Lol I know, cant help it though. Its the truth!

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  10. Once you reach a certain age, people here are just bent on getting you married. This is hilarious, I love it. Although at 22 I'm still safe, because I've an older sister. ;)

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    1. Hawww lucky you. Enjoy the time :D
      Thanks for reading *grins*

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  11. I have read that list of similar questions long time before! :) And I used to be asked same questions. Are you married? What's your age? Do you have boyfriend? Do you plan to marry him? What will you do if he doesn't marry you? In my society it's very difficult to get married, because men like to be single till 37. So it's really very painful questions for me. And whatever answer you will give, it wouldn't be for your advantage. People like to judge, especially those who are getting married because it is a MUST do in their society!

    Another annoying question is What's your salary. It's like they want to scan my life in numbers. My earning are high considering of salary rates in my country so I have nothing to be ashamed, but when I'm being asked this question I still want to say 'why, do you want to use my contacts when you will need money and need financial help? Sorry, but I'm not a bank'.


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    1. Haha well people cant seem to mind their own business. Yayies you're rich, be my friend? :p jkjk!
      I know people judge no matter what. I dont pay attention to them!

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  12. Is marriage really such a massive question creator? But then if you're inundated with questions that just refer to marriage, I'm sure the questions deserve to be in your most-hated list!

    Arvind Passey
    www.passey.info

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    1. Sadly tis true. I'm on the next list as they all say. It's aggravating.

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  13. Lol! that makes me laugh. My sister is 26 and she is facing these questions these days. :D It's better to marry when one really feels like to and gets prepared to handle responsibilities of married life. These days it's more difficult to make a marriage successful. I hope parents and more than them uncles and aunties get this fact.

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    1. Hehe you are lucky Namrata. Wait until she gets married, you'll be bombarded then!

      Yes it's a responsibility that one shouldn't take until they are mentally and emotionally prepared.

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  14. I can relate totally!!!! Ha ha, I should show this post to my parents!!!! ;) Lovely write up dear!!

    ~S(t)ri
    Smile, it makes (y)our day!

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    1. Hehe I showed it to my mom. The expression on her face! Priceless!

      *double smiles*

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  15. And I am24. Sigh, we are on the same boat sister!

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    1. Lets escape on that boat while we still can :D

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  16. ahhh...well these are questions every woman is tormented with...dn't know about the men though! :)

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    1. I think both are equally bombarded, the only difference is the age at which it happens.

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  17. Haha.. God ... such people are everywhere !! Btw, I too wrote a post sometime back on similar lines: http://jyotsnabhatia.blogspot.in/2014/02/twenty-eight-and-single.html

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  18. Very true. Feeling the irritation. I was even asked pointblank if I prefer my own gender over the opposite!

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    1. Haha oops! Thank god haven't experienced that yet!

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  19. hahaha.. some poor people can never rise ! .. are u comapring Reshammiya compositions or his voice ? because he is a very nice music composer though cant say the same for his voice :D

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    1. Lol oh his voice. Best form of torture. Won't you agree? :p

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  20. Not only girls,boys are also questioned in the same way,but I think marriage should be one's own decision.

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  21. i to have some annoying questions like these ...

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  22. even though these are some irritating questions, this post is surely an interesting read. big likes to your scribbles but isn't 23 still young for all these? :) :(

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    1. Yeah it is. But apparently a lot of people believe 23-24 is the 'right time' :(

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  23. People are so worried fo u yaa..
    how sweet...!! :P :P

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    1. Lol yeah in that I'll end up with God only knows who! No no no!

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  24. So many Qns all marriage-related!!!
    I love Qn#10! But, that's not the Qn we hate! We love when Moms fuss over us!

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    1. Hehe yeah the great Indian marriage drama!
      And yepps I secretly love it, can't tell it to mum ;)

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  25. Haha...really made me smile...sorry, I know how annoyed these questions make you feel...but it's the questions themselves!
    Those universal questions every single female is asked at some time in her life.
    Why does everyone assume we will never be fulfilled unless we are married...this is 2014...we want to choose our own life path - with or without a man at our side!!!
    A truly fabulous write! :)

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    1. Exactly! A fulfilled life may be with or without a spouse.

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  26. I totally understand this one....you know why because I am going through the same :):)

    Well Sabeeha ....thanks for being such an amazing blogger and being so supportive . So , i would like to give you The Sunshine Award ...hope you accept it :)

    http://drsushreedash.blogspot.in/2014/04/here-comes-my-first-blog-award.html

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    1. Haha I didn't know that!

      And yes I would feel honoured to accept it! ^.^

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  27. Parents are the only concerned people who have the liberty to ask questions related to marriage. Others have just a curiosity or they don't understand the relationship boundaries.

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  28. Almost everyone in India undergo this Q's..:)

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  29. The question of marriage is like a doom!

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  30. hahah.. loved it ..and the same question annoys me to that.. I come from that part of the world where girls should get married when they are 18 (non sense) and I m 22 and I seem to have crossed some age barrier (more nonsense, they say)....but blah blah blah.. you are right, it shall happen when it has to, pestering from people who have nothing to do with it doesn't help in anyway..:)
    Good luck with finding peace from it all..:D Cheers..:)

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    1. Oh my! 18 is so young! Haha well good luck to you tooo :p hi5!
      Cheers!

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  31. I feel so relieved. I thought I was the only one, facing these questions.

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  32. Ha Ha - There is a different set of questions married women are asked. And a different set people with children are asked I guess. All about moving to the next stage in life. Thankfully no one aks old people when they are planning to move to the next stage.

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    1. Lol ab retirement ke baad?:p yeah most probably question!

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  33. Just ignore I say. :)
    Ab to duniya dekho pehle!

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  34. I am in love with the way you write. It's such a clear description of the thoughts! :)

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  35. Its so annoying yes,that's why we are called nosy Indians. I wrote something on the same lines. would you like to read? http://nimadas.blogspot.in/2014/04/5-annoying-questions.html

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  36. The last time I checked, such questions were the only thing in my relatives' minds, and that's precisely the reason I marked them as spam on truecaller. :D

    Tushar Kumar Singh
    Project Disavowed

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  37. Thats an awesome post there:D:D:D:)

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